When Words Fail: How the Spirit Prays Within Our Imperfect Groans

Life can feel like a relentless treadmill sometimes. Maybe it's the constant demands of family, the pressures of a challenging career, or simply the daily grind that leaves you feeling stretched thin. And for many of us, myself included, amidst it all, our personal practices—like prayer—can start to feel… messy.

If I’m honest, my prayers sometimes feel more like a rambling to-do list for God, or a desperate plea for five minutes of quiet, than a profound spiritual encounter. There are days I kneel down, or slump onto the couch, and just… nothing. My mind races from unfinished tasks to lingering worries, and the lofty words I think I should be praying just won't come. My brain feels like a browser with too many tabs open, all buffering.

Have you ever been there? That feeling of spiritual inadequacy, like your prayers are just bouncing off the ceiling?

If so, then Romans 8:22-27 is a passage that has become a profound comfort and a powerful reminder for me:

"We know that all creation is groaning in labor pains even until now; and not only that, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, we also groan within ourselves as we1 await the adoption, the redemption of our bodies. For in hope we were saved. But hope seen is not hope; for who hopes for what is seen? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait with endurance. In the same way, the Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but2 the Spirit himself intercedes with inexpressible groanings. And the one who searches hearts knows what is the intention of the Spirit, because he intercedes for the holy ones according to God’s will."

There’s so much packed into these verses, but what hits me every time is this idea of "groaning." Paul tells us that all creation groans, waiting for redemption. And then, he says, we groan too. It’s not a pretty word, "groan." It conjures images of pain, effort, longing. But it’s an honest word, isn’t it? It perfectly describes those moments when our inner world feels stretched, when our aspirations meet the hard reality of life.

The Groaning Within

For me, that groaning often manifests in my attempts at prayer. I want to be present, to be mindful, to truly connect. But my mind is a whirlwind. I've had countless moments where I've tried to pray, but all that comes out is a jumble of anxieties: "God, help with this….help with that…please let me get some rest… help me be  better… why does this problem feel never-ending?" It's often a chaotic mess, leaving me feeling more frustrated than peaceful.

But then, I remembered these verses. Paul doesn't say we pray perfectly, or that our prayers are always eloquent. He acknowledges our "weakness." We "do not know how to pray as we ought." This hit me hard. It’s a radical acceptance of our human limitations, even in the most sacred of acts. It’s okay that my prayers aren't always poetic. It's okay that sometimes, all I have are feelings, anxieties, and unarticulated longings.

The Holy Spirit: Our Divine Interpreter

And here's where the incredible, liberating truth of Romans 8:26 comes in: "But the Spirit himself intercedes with inexpressible groanings."

Think about that for a moment. When my words fail, when my thoughts are scattered, when all I can offer is a jumble of "groans," the Holy Spirit steps in. The Spirit, who is God dwelling within me, takes my messy, imperfect, inarticulate prayers and translates them. He intercedes for me with "inexpressible groanings" – groanings that are perfect, pure, and utterly aligned with God’s will.

It’s like having a divine interpreter who understands not just the words I try to say, but the deepest yearnings of my heart, the unspoken burdens, the unformed hopes. The Spirit knows what I truly need, even when I don’t. He takes my chaotic prayer and makes it coherent and pleasing to God.

This insight has been a game-changer for my mindfulness in prayer. When my mind is racing, instead of getting frustrated with my lack of focus, I try to simply acknowledge it. I tell myself, "Okay, my mind is busy. Let's just sit with that for a moment." And then, I remember the Spirit. I actively invite Him, "Holy Spirit, you know my heart. You know what I truly need. Please pray for me, with these groanings, according to God’s will."

This isn’t an excuse for laziness in prayer, but rather an invitation to  trust. It’s acknowledging that prayer isn't just about what I say, but about what God is doing through me, and indeed, for me. It frees me from the pressure of having to perform, to articulate perfectly, to have all the answers.

Finding Peace in Imperfection

So, if your prayer life feels a bit like mine sometimes – a beautiful, messy, often inarticulate groaning – take heart. You are not alone. And more importantly, you are not praying alone. The Holy Spirit is right there with you, taking your weakness, your struggles, your deepest sighs, and transforming them into perfect petitions before the Father.

This understanding helps me embrace mindfulness in a new way during prayer. It’s not about silencing every thought, but about acknowledging them, and then trusting that the Spirit is at work in the midst of it all. It allows for a deeper sense of peace, knowing that even in my imperfection, I am perfectly heard and understood by God, through the boundless love and intercession of the Holy Spirit.

Let's continue to groan, to hope, and to trust that God is always listening, always loving, and always interceding for us.

The Ascension: When Balancing the Books Requires Letting Go and Trusting God's Plan

You know those moments at work when you’re staring at numbers that just won't add up, and the more you stare, the more a single, stubborn penny throws your whole day off? That was me just last week. I was knee-deep in month end accounting close reconciliation – a process that always feels like a treasure hunt, except the treasure is a perfectly balanced ledger. This particular one, though, was a beast. I had multiple bank statements, dozens of expense reports, and a stack of invoices, all needing to tie out to the penny. I'd run the numbers forwards, backwards, sideways. My eyes were blurry, my head was pounding, and that elusive penny, or sometimes dollars and cents, just wouldn't magically appear or disappear to bring everything into alignment. I was cycling through the same reports, getting more frustrated by the minute, ready to declare accounting an ancient form of torture.

I finally decided to just… walk away. Not just for the night, but for a whole weekend. I needed a complete mental reset from those spreadsheets. I promised myself I wouldn't even think about debits and credits. And wouldn't you know it? Saturday afternoon, while I was simply out for a walk, enjoying the fresh air, a simple thought popped into my head: "Check the last month's closing balance again, specifically for a single, small adjustment." It was so obvious in hindsight, yet completely invisible when I was forcing the numbers. The solution wasn't in brute-forcing the reconciliation; it was in stepping back and allowing a fresh perspective to emerge. I had found it – a miskeyed transaction from the prior period that was exactly the amount I was off by. The frustration melted away, replaced by a quiet, joyful click.

That little breakthrough, as mundane as it might seem, has been echoing in my mind this week as we approach the Feast of the Ascension. It reminds me so powerfully of the ending of Luke's Gospel, specifically Luke 24:46-53, where Jesus’s earthly ministry culminates in His departure.

Think about the disciples in that moment. They had walked with Jesus, seen His miracles, heard His teachings, and just witnessed His resurrection. Their world had been completely turned upside down, then right-side up, and then sideways again! And now, He’s telling them He’s leaving. Imagine that mix of confusion, perhaps a touch of fear, but also, as Luke tells us, "great joy." It’s like being handed the keys to a vital, world-changing organization, with the overwhelming task of "balancing the books" of humanity's redemption, just after your visionary Founder steps away.

Let's look at what Jesus shares with them before He ascends:

"He told them, 'This is what is written: The Messiah will suffer and rise from the dead on the third day, and repentance for the forgiveness of sins will be preached in his name to all nations, beginning at Jerusalem. You are witnesses of these things. I am going to send you what my Father has promised; but stay in the city until you have been clothed with power from on high.' When he had led them out to the vicinity of Bethany, he lifted up his hands and blessed them.1 And while he was blessing them, he left them and was taken up into heaven. Then they worshiped him and returned to Jerusalem with great joy. And they stayed continually at the temple, praising God."

When I read this, I see so much that speaks to our modern human condition, that sense of overwhelm, the need for new vision, and the promise of strength, even when our own calculations fall short.

First, Jesus begins by explaining that His suffering, death, and resurrection were not random events. They were "what is written," the fulfillment of God's ancient promises. For the disciples, this provided context, a framework for understanding the seemingly chaotic events they’d just witnessed. In our own lives, when we’re feeling lost or overwhelmed by a problem that just won't yield, like a reconciliation that won't balance, it's a powerful reminder that there is a larger, divine narrative at play. Even our struggles, our "impossible" tasks, can be part of a greater purpose, leading to renewal and growth if we allow ourselves to see beyond the immediate obstacle. Just as my reconciliation needed a different perspective, our lives often need alignment with God’s overarching will.

Then, Jesus entrusts them with an incredible mission, telling them, "You are witnesses of these things," and that the message of repentance and forgiveness should be "preached in his name to all nations, beginning at Jerusalem." He's commissioning them, making them part of something monumental – not just balancing human accounts, but bringing about true reconciliation with God. This isn't just about their problems; it's about their role in God’s solution for the world. We, too, are witnesses. Not necessarily to the historical events of the resurrection, but to the transformative power of Christ in our own lives and in the small corners of the world we inhabit. How often do we get so bogged down in our daily grind, staring at our own ledgers of life, that we forget to see the impact we can have, the small acts of grace or kindness that point to something greater? Being mindful means actively looking for these moments and acknowledging their divine source, realizing our part in the larger story of God’s plan.

Perhaps the most striking part of the passage, especially in light of my recent accounting dilemma, is when Jesus says, "I am going to send you what my Father has promised; but stay in the city until you have been clothed with power from on high." And then, "he left them and was taken up into heaven." This wasn’t an abandonment, but a moment of transition and empowerment. He had to depart so that the "power from on high"—the Holy Spirit—could come. Sometimes in our lives, whether it's a complex accounting problem or a deeply personal struggle, we have to let go of our own limited understanding, our frantic attempts to control every decimal point. We have to step back and create space for God’s transformative grace. It's often in our moments of surrender, when we stop forcing the solution, that we are "clothed with power" we never knew we had, and the Holy Spirit reveals the way forward. It's like clearing out the clutter in your mental ledger so the divine insight can finally balance the books.

And what was the disciples’ response? They "worshiped him and returned to Jerusalem with great joy. And they stayed continually at the temple, praising God." Think about that. Their leader had just ascended, leaving them with an immense mission. Yet, they were filled with profound, spiritual joy and praise. This isn't superficial happiness; it's a deep contentment rooted in faith, understanding, and the anticipation of God’s promise. In a world full of anxiety, tight deadlines, and constant demands to be perfectly "balanced," finding moments to pause, to be grateful, and to praise God—even when the future feels uncertain or our own accounts don't quite square—is a deeply mindful and liberating act. It anchors us in a hope that transcends our daily frustrations and the endless pursuit of perfection.

The Ascension reminds us that our faith isn't about clinging to what was, or frantically balancing every aspect of life with just our own limited strength. It's about trusting in God’s larger plan, embracing the divine empowerment that comes when we step back, and living with a joy that’s rooted in His constant presence. Just as I had to let go of my frustration to find that elegant solution for my reconciliation, we too are called to let go of our grip on life, trusting that in His apparent departure, Christ has given us everything we need to live lives of purpose, profound hope, and surprising peace.

What "unbalanced accounts" are you wrestling with right now, where stepping back might be the key to seeing God’s hand at work? Share your thoughts in the comments below – I'd love to hear from you.

Are You Seeing Clearly? A Mindful Look at Luke 6:39-45

Okay, let's be honest, we've all been there. You know, that moment when you're convinced someone else is the problem. You're mentally listing their flaws, dissecting their mistakes, and feeling that surge of judgment rise within you. Maybe it's a friend's social media post that rubs you the wrong way, or a family member's annoying habit that pushes your buttons. Whatever it is, you're locked in, laser-focused on the "speck" in their eye.

But here's the thing: Jesus throws us a curveball in Luke 6:39-45. He gently reminds us, "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?" Ouch. It's so easy to get caught up in judging others, isn't it? We become hyper-aware of their shortcomings while conveniently overlooking our own.

Think about it:

• In our relationships: We criticize our spouse's messiness while ignoring our own tendency to procrastinate.

• At work: We judge a colleague's presentation skills while forgetting the time we completely missed a deadline.

• In our communities: We whisper about someone's parenting choices while failing to acknowledge our own struggles.

It's human nature, right? But Jesus calls us to something deeper, something more mindful. He challenges us to turn that critical gaze inward, to honestly examine the "logs" in our own eyes before pointing out the "specks" in others.

This isn't about self-condemnation or wallowing in guilt. It's about cultivating self-awareness, humility, and compassion. It's about recognizing that we're all on a journey, all works in progress, all in need of grace.

And here's the beautiful thing: when we shift our focus from judgment to self-reflection, something amazing happens. We start to see others with more understanding and empathy. We become less quick to criticize and more willing to extend grace. We begin to recognize that those "specks" we're so focused on are often just reflections of our own unhealed wounds.

So, how do we practically live this out?

• Daily Examen: Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your interactions with others. Where did you judge? Where did you fall short?

• Practice Forgiveness: Extend forgiveness to yourself and others. Remember that we all make mistakes.

• Cultivate Gratitude: Focus on the good in yourself and others. Celebrate the small victories and appreciate the unique gifts each person brings.

• Pray for Discernment: Ask the Holy Spirit to help you see clearly, to distinguish between the "specks" and the "logs," and to guide you on the path of love and compassion.

As we journey together as mindful Catholics, let's strive to live out the message of Luke 6:39-45. Let's choose self-reflection over judgment, forgiveness over condemnation, and love over fear. And let's remember that in the eyes of God, we are all perfectly imperfect, beautifully broken, and infinitely loved.

Ditch the Hamster Wheel: Find True Abundance

Let's talk about something real. Something that gnaws at all of us, no matter how much we pretend it doesn't. We chase, we strive, we hustle… for what exactly? Another promotion? A bigger house? That designer handbag that'll be "so last season" in six months? We're on this hamster wheel of more, more, MORE, and yet, how often do we actually feel… full?

I was reflecting on today’s Gospel reading Luke 6:17, 20-26, and it hit me like a ton of bricks. Jesus is talking about blessedness. But it's not the blessedness we're used to hearing about. He's talking about the poor being blessed. The hungry. The weeping. Wait, what?!

Hold on, before you click away thinking I've lost my mind, hear me out. He's not saying poverty is some glamorous ideal. He's talking about a poverty of spirit. A recognition, deep down, that we don't have all the answers. That we need something bigger than ourselves. We need Him. That's where the real abundance comes from.

Think about it. When you're clinging to every penny, terrified of losing what you have, are you truly free? Or are you shackled by fear? When you're constantly chasing the next dopamine hit, the next fleeting pleasure, are you truly satisfied? Or are you left feeling empty, craving more?

This isn't about giving up everything you own and living in a cave (unless that's your jam, then rock on!). It's about mindful awareness. It's about taking a breath, stepping off that hamster wheel, and asking yourself some tough questions.

• What am I truly hungry for? Is it the external validation, the fleeting moments of glory, or something deeper, something that nourishes my soul?

• Where do I find my consolation? Is it in the stuff I own, the image I project, or in the connection I have with something greater than myself?

• Am I living a life of purpose, or am I just going through the motions? Am I contributing to the world in a meaningful way, or am I just focused on my own little bubble?

Now, I'm not going to tell you the answers. That's your job. But I will tell you this: True abundance, the kind that fills you up from the inside out, isn't found in the external world. It's found in our faith in God.

Here are a few things you can do right now to start cultivating that inner abundance:

• Practice gratitude. Seriously, take a few minutes each day to appreciate the good things in your life, no matter how small. It shifts your focus from what you lack to what you have.

• Connect with something bigger than yourself. Whether that's through prayer, meditation, spending time in nature, or volunteering, find something that connects you to the divine, to the universe, to something beyond your own little world.

• Serve others. Get outside of yourself and focus on the needs of others. You'll be amazed at how much joy you receive in return.

This isn't some fluffy, feel-good, self-help nonsense. This is about reclaiming your life. It's about breaking free from the chains of materialism and finding true, lasting fulfillment. It's about living a life of purpose, a life of meaning, a life of abundance.

So, I challenge you. Step off the hamster wheel. Take a deep breath. And ask yourself: What am I really hungry for?

Let me know what you discover in the comments below. I'm genuinely curious.

Finding the Extraordinary in Your Ordinary

I recently reflected on this weekend’s Gospel reading, Luke 2:22-40, and it struck me how relevant it is today. It explores hope, faith, and the incredible power that lies within each of us. It's about human potential, about finding the extraordinary within your ordinary life.

We have Mary and Joseph, two regular parents dealing with a newborn. Sound familiar? Sleepless nights, diaper changes, the whole ordeal. But they're also carrying this immense responsibility – raising the Son of God. Talk about pressure!

But here's the key: they show up. They follow through. They present their son at the temple, just as they were supposed to. They were present to the task at hand.

Then we meet Simeon and Anna, two individuals who dedicated their lives to something bigger than themselves. Simeon, waiting for the Messiah, his whole life fueled by this burning hope. Anna, a prophetess, practically living in the temple, radiating faith.

These people weren't superheroes. They were just like you and me. They likely had doubts, fears, and probably bad hair days. But they had something more: unwavering belief and a commitment to their purpose.

Simeon's story hits me hard. He was promised he wouldn't die before seeing the Messiah. Imagine that! He held onto that promise, that hope, through thick and thin. And when he finally holds baby Jesus, he's overcome with peace. He can finally rest, knowing he's witnessed the fulfillment of God's promise.

How many of us are waiting for something? That promotion, that relationship, that breakthrough? Simeon teaches us that the journey is just as important as the destination. It's about having faith, staying present, and trusting that things will unfold as they should.

This reminds me of a time a few years ago when I was preparing for my first best man speech. Hundreds of people, huge expectations, and the pressure was crushing. I started to doubt myself, to question if I was the right person, if I could deliver. Fear started to creep in, and my energy plummeted. By focusing on my breath, I was able to tap into my inner strength and reconnect with my purpose. Getting through that speech was one of the most powerful experiences of my life.

Mindfulness, being present, it's a superpower! It's about quieting the noise in your head and connecting with your inner wisdom. Just like Simeon found peace by holding Jesus, you can find peace by trusting in God’s presence in your own life.

And then there's Anna. This woman was a force of nature! She recognized Jesus and immediately started spreading the word. She didn't keep that joy, that revelation, to herself. She shared it with the world.

What are you passionate about? What lights you up? Don't keep it bottled up inside. Share it! Your passion, your energy, they're contagious. You have the power to inspire others, just like Anna.

So, here's the takeaway: You don't need to be a saint or a superhero to make a difference. Mary, Joseph, Simeon, and Anna were ordinary people who embraced their purpose and lived extraordinary lives.

You have that same power within you. Embrace your purpose. Trust in the Lord and have faith in the journey. Be present. Share your light!

Overcome Feeling Lost: Find Purpose & Meaning Today

Ever feel like you're just going through the motions, not really living your life to the fullest? I know I have. It's like being stuck on autopilot, scrolling through social media, binge-watching shows, but not really feeling alive. We are not present.

I was talking to my friend, Lindsay, the other day. She's a successful accountant, has a nice apartment, and from the outside, it looks like she has it all. But she confessed to me that she felt empty inside. "I'm working all the time," she said, "but for what? I'm not even sure I'm making a difference." She was so focused on climbing the corporate ladder that she'd lost sight of what truly mattered to her. She was drifting, not really steering her own life. Lindsay is not alone. Many people feel the same way.

And that's where a lot of us are, right? We get so caught up in the daily grind that we forget to ask ourselves the big questions: What's my purpose? What am I passionate about? What kind of impact do I want to make? Deep down, we all have incredible potential, but it's easy to get stuck in a rut. We end up just drifting along instead of steering our own ship.

But here's the good news: we can find a sense of purpose and direction that will absolutely transform our lives. This comes from figuring out what truly matters to us and connecting with something bigger than ourselves.

Let's talk about this Sunday’s Gospel reading from Luke! Now, Luke was like the ultimate truth-seeker. He didn't just take things at face value when it came to the stories about Jesus. He went out and interviewed people who had actually met Jesus, witnessed His miracles, and heard Him teach. He was determined to get to the bottom of it all. Like a detective, he gathered all the evidence he could, building a solid foundation for his faith. He wanted to be sure, just like those scribes that took extra care and time to accurately copy the scripture word for word. They didn't just copy. They took their time to understand the words they were writing, through meditation and prayer.

And you know what Luke found? He discovered that Jesus was the real deal - someone who came to bring hope, love, and freedom to everyone.

In today’s Gospel, Jesus reads from the prophet Isaiah, saying He's here to bring good news to the poor, freedom to those who are trapped, sight to the blind, and relief to the oppressed. Then Jesus says, "This is happening right now, today!"

That's powerful stuff! Jesus wasn't talking about something that would happen way off in the future. He meant that He was there to change lives right then and there. And guess what? That same power to change and transform is available to us today.

Are you stuck in a dead-end job? Are your relationships struggling? Do you feel lost and unsure of your purpose? We can find a way out! Just like my friend Lindsay started to do when she realized she was not fulfilled. We can discover our true potential, pursue our dreams, and overcome the things that are holding us back.

But it doesn't happen by magic. We have to put in the work. We need to actively build a strong faith, one that's about how we live each day, not just what we believe. We should be like Luke, always searching for truth and a deeper understanding of our faith and our purpose in life.

So here's what I want you to do:

1. Figure out what you want: What kind of life do you really want? What kind of difference do you want to make in the world? What did you love to do as a child?

2. Find your connection: Whether it's through prayer, meditation, being in nature, or whatever works for you, find a way to connect with something bigger than yourself. For those of us who believe, we can connect with God.

3. Take action: Don't just sit around waiting for things to change. Go out and make them happen! Step outside your comfort zone, face your challenges head-on, and don't give up on what you want.

This is your chance to really live the life you were meant for. Find your purpose, unlock your potential, and go make it happen! You got this!

The Force Awakens - The Beginning of Someone Better

If you are like me and millions of other people, you probably saw Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Well, the movie speaks for itself and I will not bore you with my thoughts on who Rey’s father is or any other commentary. But, around that same time that the film came out, I was having my very own Awakening. I don’t know about you but 2015 was a tough year for me - dealing with my mother’s death and my own heart illness. I realized that whether life was going well or collapsing like a melting ice glacier, I wanted to be a better person. I wanted to be a better friend, brother, cousin, uncle, employee, leader, lover, and boyfriend. Most importantly, I wanted to know God better.  I had finally realized that a force was within me desiring to be more like Him. I knew it in my heart; I had been put on this earth for something more. I needed to be living at a higher level and I could no longer be complacent. I needed to be better for me, for others, and for Him.

We have been already experiencing the wondrous blessings from God. But, we should never be complacent. He calls us to be vigilant and constantly wants us to do more. God increases life through us. He challenges us every day to become better and to raise life to a new level. We simply cannot settle for anything less than are very best. We must awaken the force and push forward.

The Mindful Catholic is a resource for you. It will serve as a practical guide to help you grow better each day so that we can be at our very best. It is at our very best that we may also have the ability to serve Him best. I hope that you come with me on this journey to seek out the greatness that God has already placed within us. Now is the time to set aside differences, set aside mediocrity, and set aside negative thinking.

Like everything else, this is a process for growing and learning. Let us remember to trust God and have the faith of a mustard seed so that God’s grace will pour out on us with abundant blessings. The more our faith grows in God, the better we will become. We may just be surprised with ourselves and how abundant life will become.   

So, are you ready? The upcoming Blog posts and the Podcasts will go through the principles and practices that will help us become better each day. Understand that this is a process. We must do all we can do to improve ourselves and have unwavering faith that God will take care of the rest. This will be a life-changing process. You will be better. You will be more useful. You will be more productive. You will have better relationships. If you want to become rich or famous you will.  When you have faith in yourself and trust in God with all your heart; there is no stopping your potential. We just need to awaken the force within that God placed within us.