**That Frozen Feeling: Why Faith Isn't the Absence of Fear (And What It Actually Is)**

It’s 3:00 AM. The house is dark, everyone is asleep, and your heart is pounding.

You know the feeling. The "what if" scenarios are playing on a non-stop loop in your head. What if I lose my job? What if that test result comes back positive? What if I fail? What if...

You’re frozen.

You’re also a person of faith. So on top of the fear, a nice, thick layer of guilt settles in. "I shouldn't be this afraid," you tell yourself. "If I really trusted God, I’d be at peace. My faith must be weak."

Can I just say, as a fellow human being trying to walk this messy, beautiful Catholic life: That is a lie.

For years, I believed that lie. I thought faith was a magic, anti-fear vaccine. I’d pray for the fear to go away, and when it didn't, I assumed I was doing something wrong.

But I’ve come to learn (the hard way) that faith isn't about being fearless. Look at the scriptures. The command "Be not afraid" is in the Bible hundreds of times. Why? Because we are afraid. It's a fundamental human response. Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane was in "anguish," sweating blood. He wasn't skipping toward the cross.

Here’s the truth I wish I’d learned sooner:

Faith is not the absence of fear. Faith is the decision to trust God's presence and power more than the perceived threat.

Faith isn't a feeling; it's an action. It's a choice. It's a pivot.

And this is where the "mindful" part of our Catholic faith becomes a true superpower.

The Sacred Pause: Where Mindfulness Meets Faith

When fear freezes us, our first instinct is to either fight the fear ("Go away! I shouldn't feel this!") or flee from it (distract, numb, scroll).

Mindfulness offers a third, revolutionary path: Acknowledge it.

Mindfulness, at its core, is simply paying attention to the present moment without judgment. When fear shows up, mindfulness doesn't panic. It just notices.

It says, "Ah, hello fear. I feel you. My chest is tight. My breathing is shallow. My thoughts are racing."

You don't have to like the feeling. You don't have to agree with the feeling. You just have to notice that it's there.

This simple act of noticing is incredibly powerful. It creates a tiny bit of space between you (your soul, your consciousness) and the fear (the emotion, the chemical reaction).

In that space—that sacred pause—we get to make a choice.

The Pivot: Choosing Our Anchor

Fear has a very loud voice. It wants to be the only thing we hear. It points to the wind and the waves and screams, "We're going to drown!" (Just ask Peter).

Faith, in that sacred pause, is the conscious decision to turn our gaze. It’s the choice to listen to a different voice—a quieter, steadier one.

It’s the voice of God, who doesn't always still the storm around us, but who always promises to be in the boat with us.

This is the pivot:

Fear says: "The threat is huge!"
Faith says: "God is bigger."
Fear says: "You are alone!"
Faith says: "I am with you." (Isaiah 41:10)
Fear says: "The darkness is overwhelming!"
Faith says: "The Lord is my light." (Psalm 27:1)

Notice that faith doesn't deny the storm. The waves are real. The threat might be real. The fear is definitely real. Faith just chooses to make God the anchor, not the fear.

A 3-Step Mindful Catholic Pivot (For When You're Frozen)

This isn't a one-and-done fix. It's a practice. It's like building a muscle. The next time you feel that 3:00 AM panic, or that midday wave of anxiety, try this:

1. Acknowledge (The Mindful Part):

Don't fight it. Just name it. "I am feeling a wave of fear right now." Take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the floor. You are here. You are present. The feeling is just a feeling; it is not you.

2. Breathe (The Embodied Part):

Connect your breath to your prayer. This brings your body (which is holding the fear) into the presence of God (who holds you).

Breathe in: "Jesus, my light..."
Breathe out: "...and my salvation."

Do this three or four times. Let your breath get a little slower, a little deeper.

3. Anchor (The Faith Part):

Make the choice. You can say it out loud or in your heart:

"Lord, this fear is real, and I feel it. But I choose to trust that Your presence is more real. I don't know the outcome, but I know You. You are my refuge. You are my strength. I am placing my trust in You, even with my knees knocking."

Be gentle with yourself. This is the work of a lifetime. Having to make this choice over and over doesn't mean your faith is weak. It means you're human.

And every single time you choose to pivot, every time you turn your gaze back to Him—no matter how scared you feel—that, my friend, is an act of gigantic, courageous faith.

Peace be with you.

I hate gardening. There I said it. It is just one of the chores like many others that I simply do not care for. Much respect for you garden aficionados out there in the world. Although, I am fascinated with the idea of growing things and keeping my landscapes maintained. I simply refuse to get myself to work outside; get on my hands and knees in the heat, and simply put in the work to maintaining a beautiful garden. It takes patience and dedication to make your garden as beautiful as it is. The thing is; I really crave to be a gardener. Not so much in the physical sense, but a mental gardener or landscaper of sorts. Just like an overgrown garden filled with weeds and other parasitic plants, our minds fill up with negativity. It is these negative thoughts that must be weeded and dug out before they can grow and infest our way of thinking.

The information age is here and now. Information about everything is simply at our fingertips. However, during the course of this knowledge overshare we cannot simply disseminate all the possible bad weeds of information that clutter our mind. We can find thousands of websites of diet and detox plans. We can watch videos of people becoming healthy and fueling their awesome lifestyles. But, where is the negativity thinking detox plan or guides? If we are what we eat, then perhaps it is true that we think is what we do. The problem is that many of us, sad to say it, don’t want to be mental gardeners. Too often, we get distracted and think that not dealing with the bad will somehow make the bad just go away.

Negative thinking needs to be stopped at the root just like a weed needs to be dug out or it will come back again. When we rid of ourselves of negative thinking, we can be free to finally do better and be better. We have to take small steps in retraining our minds not to focus so much on dark emotions like anger, sadness, pain, and disappointment. We need to stop our addiction to pain and sadness. Too many times, we easily forget the happy moments we have once shared, but when something bad happens in our life we are left scarred and we dwell in that negativity for weeks, months, and perhaps years. Just think about it now, when was the last time you laughed out loud or so hard that your cheeks started to hurt? How about the last time someone made you smile and it wasn’t forced? Now, think about the last time someone pissed you off? How about the last time you felt alone and sad? Perhaps, now you see how much easier it is to remember negative outcomes than good times.

Here at themindfulcatholic.com, we focus and train very hard to bring God into our daily lives. We make it priority to include God in everything we do. When we turn our focus on God, we finally get ourselves out of own way and realize that this life isn’t just about us. That all that we are, all that we do is really for the Glory of God. By being aware that God is fully with us at all times helps us to weed out and stop negative thinking in its tracks. In no means, are we guaranteed that life will be easy and we are to expect to be walking on rainbows and playing with unicorns all the time. It means that when things get tough, our God is looking out for us. It means that if we keep our faith and focus on Him, He will helps us weed out the bad and overcome negativity because doing God’s work can only bring about positive outcomes.

Do we dare to cultivate a more positive thinking environment? The choice is always there for you to make.